Le Mystere Response: Thank you for your feedback. We are sorry that you did not enjoy our Paloma bra. While this is a seamed bra that certainly gives great lift, the angle of the seam creates a low profile projection. As with many fabrics, the lace and self fabric on this bra will certainly soften with washing. If you are open to trying something new, we would like to suggest that you give our new Victorienne bra 851 a try. It is a three part seamed cup that gives awesome lift, nice projection and is made of a comfortable fabrication. We do hope that you will consider giving this bra a try. Laura Y from Calabasas, CA