Gapping on the side of the cup can occur when not all of the breast tissue is scooped into the cup. I can’t stress enough how crucial it is to bring all of the breast tissue forward, from the back to the front of the under-wire to fill the cup. The center front should be right up against the chest wall for separation and support, you want it “snugging up” against the chest wall. But not tight: If you’re finding the center gore is pressing in too much on the chest wall, perhaps go up a band size, to a 40.
It’s just as important to put your bra on properly as it is to find the right style and correct size. I promise it will make all the difference in how the bra fits you!
Anna from Lakeland, FL US
Karen, you’re correct, the band does stretch out in time.
I’m not surprised the 40J is really tight: By going down to a 40J from your original size of 42J, you not only gave yourself a smaller band, but also a smaller cup size! If the cup fit in the 42J, then you would need a 40K which will give you a tighter band, and the same cup capacity. The entire bra will feel tight and very uncomfortable if the cup is too small.
By increasing the cup in a 40- band you’re giving yourself more room in the band as well. As for the lace, it will soften as you wash and wear it. Perhaps try a bit of fabric softener in the rinse water.
Goddess Response: If you’re wearing a UK K-cup you might want to try the Goddess 6090 . This bra comes to a UK JJ-cup, or a U.S. N-cup. Panache cups run a bit small, so we're sure the JJ cup would fit you. Alternatively, you could cross over to the Elomi brand and try the Caitlyn 8030
#8030 in a K-cup. Both of these bras are absolutely beautiful and come in fashion colors. We know you’ll love them!
Sibyl from Moreno Valley, Calif, USA